Etiquette royalty weighs in on weed.
Lizzie Post comes from etiquette royalty. Her great-great-grandmother Emily Post literally wrote the book on good manners: Etiquette: In Society, In Business, In Politics and At Home was published in 1922, was practically as ubiquitous in the home as a dictionary – and is still in print.
Lizzie was responsible for that book’s latest edition (the 19th), as well as a new guide her namesake could have never imagined: a book about manners around cannabis.
It goes way beyond puff-puff-pass, Post writes in the newly released Higher Etiquette: A Guide to the World of Cannabis, from Dispensaries to Dinner Parties. Both primer and behavior guide, it covers strains, terpenes, consumption methods and other cannabis-culture basics, like acquiring, sharing, declining (???), and more.
Post talked with Eaze about the book and the Emily Post Institute’s perspective on marijuana.
Eaze: When did you first get the idea for this book?
Post: Being a cannabis consumer and having friends know what the family business is, I mean, this has been a joke for a long time, like, ‘Oh, when are you guys going to do a book on cannabis?’
… Then an agent that I knew, not my actual agent, said, ‘I know a publisher looking to do a book on weed etiquette. Do you know any particularly conscientious pot smokers?’ I just raised my hand at my desk and I was like, ‘Right here!’ I knew the family would be behind it. Everyone thought it was really smart, really the right timing. Seeing how many states had legalized recreational usage, knowing that Vermont was on its way to passing its rec laws, it really just made us (think) there’s enough people this is impacting, whether they consume it or not.
“[An agent] asked me, ‘Do you know any particularly conscientious pot smokers?’ I just raised my hand and was like, ‘Right here!’”
Eaze: Did you have any reticence about publicly “outing” your cannabis use?
Post: It’s a part of my life. I feel no shame about that. It’s been a really positive part of my life. Choosing to let people know about it through work is a little bit different for me.
Eaze: What is the Emily Post Institute’s definition of etiquette?
Post: Etiquette is all about building good interactions between people … The goal is to put people at ease, to accept people for who they are, to really look around you and pay attention to all the different factors in a scenario and choose a solution that focuses on building the interaction positively.
Eaze: There’s so much about cannabis manners that we take for granted, like puff-puff-pass. How much is legalization changing practices around pot?
Post: I do think that legalization does shift this. There’s much less focus on the etiquette of figuring out how to communicate with your dealer (laughs) but that’s a true thing. Now it’s about the etiquette of walking into a dispensary and what you’re going to experience there and the people that you’re going to be interacting with… But the idea is still to root your interactions in consideration and respect and honesty. That’s what makes it fun, coming from a brand that has long talked about life and interactions in those ways, to explore it in the world of cannabis. And legalization just brings so many more ways to engage with it.
Eaze: Do you think having the Emily Post Institute weigh in on weed etiquette helps legitimize cannabis use?
Post: Our hope is that this book helps to normalize and especially to de-stigmatize it. There are definitely some stigmas around cannabis use and what it means and who you imagine being someone who consumes it. But it’s nice to broaden that and hopefully shine some light on the fact that this is a really, really broad community of people who engage with this plant. Even this book doesn’t cover enough.